If you change nothing . .


Hello! I hope your week is off to a good start. Let's imagine something for a minute. We're five years down the road and your life is exactly like it is today. How does this make you feel? Does it brighten you up, or do you feel a bit of dread?

Our brains are obsessed with the status quo

Brains love routines. Your brain just wants to save energy, so it loops the same behaviours, thoughts, and reactions - anything that’s predictable. This is why we cling to even our bad habits; they’re familiar. Breaking a pattern takes effort, and your brain isn’t thrilled about it. But YOU are in charge, not your (sometimes) lazy brain.

We assume the worst will happen (it probably won’t!)

Fear is the brain’s hobby. We imagine all kinds of disasters - what if we fail, what if people laugh, what if we have to admit that we’re actually capable of change and there’s no one to blame anymore? Don’t worry. This is just the mind trying to keep you safe (and a little bored). The worst won’t happen. And the best might!

We have no idea where to start

Sometimes change feels like moving a mountain with a spoon, and so we avoid it. And suddenly, six months go by, and you realize the mountain has only gotten bigger. The trick is to start with one little pebble. Change can be the smallest step forward, not a complete life overhaul. Really think about this for a minute: If you change nothing, nothing will change. And read it again.

You ARE capable of change! Yes, it can be overwhelming, but it can also be incredibly empowering. With a little encouragement and guidance, you'll see that every change holds the potential for growth. As a Certified Life Coach, I would love to help you find the areas you don't want to be still be watching on repeat 5 years from now. I've been there, and now I'm here for you!

Bethany Ward Life Coaching

I'm a Certified Life Coach and athlete, who loves to talk about personal development and work/life relationships. I help my clients embrace change with courage and determination. Subscribe to my newsletter to get helpful ways to improve mindset, and turn challenges into successes.

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