Can you be comfortable being uncomfortable?


Hey Reader,

Do you ever have a week where Tuesday feels like it should already be Friday? This week started like that and didn't ease up. After 3 days of feeling like the week should surely be wrapping it, the real Friday is finally almost here!

Life is unpredictable and full of curveballs. And while most people try to get through tough times, what if you could actually get stronger because of them? That’s the power of an anti-fragile mindset, instead of being fragile and breaking under pressure or simply enduring, you actually benefit from challenges. Stress, strain, and even failure aren’t setbacks, they’re part of the process that makes you more capable.

Get comfortable being uncomfortable

Most people avoid discomfort like it’s an ex they don’t want to run into at the grocery store. But discomfort is where we grow. Whether it’s pushing yourself in a workout, trying something new that makes you feel like a total beginner, or having a tough conversation you’d rather avoid - welcoming controlled discomfort builds mental toughness. Instead of seeing struggle as a red flag, start seeing it as training. Every challenge helps you get stronger.

Unshakable self-trust

Next, you need unshakable self-trust. Not confidence that everything will work out perfectly (because it won’t always), but confidence that you can handle whatever comes your way. That means taking small risks, stepping outside your comfort zone, and proving to yourself that you don’t need all the answers to move forward. The more you test your limits, the more you’ll realize that you’re way more capable than you give yourself credit for. The goal isn’t to avoid failure, it’s to use it as a stepping stone.

Things won't magically get easier, but you can get stronger. So stop waiting for life to settle down and start building the kind of mindset that thrives no matter what comes your way.

Bethany Ward Life Coaching

I'm a Certified Life Coach and athlete, who loves to talk about personal development and work/life relationships. I help my clients embrace change with courage and determination. Subscribe to my newsletter to get helpful ways to improve mindset, and turn challenges into successes.

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