Winter is coming! Depending on where you live, you either had your time change last weekend, or you'll have it soon. Am I the only one who wants to go to bed at 6pm this time of year?

Last week I spent some time around someone who talked a lot. I love conversation, and my husband and I both talk a LOT. This person, though, stood out because they only talked about themselves. I'm a curious person and love to know people's backgrounds and stories, but I found myself honestly not even caring, which didn't feel good. Have you ever had a chat with someone who didn't ask you anything at all? Within minutes you can get the impression that they don't care. I felt like I could have walked away and they wouldn't even notice I'd left.

Why ask questions of others?

Asking questions builds connections with others. When you ask someone else a question, you show that you care enough to stop talking and actually listen to what they have to say. People love being asked about themselves! And it can be fascinating to learn about what makes other people tick, and why they feel the way they do.

What about asking ourselves questions?

It's not one-sided. We can and should ask ourselves questions as well. Asking things like, “Am I doing this because I want to, or because I think I have to?” can be as enlightening as it is uncomfortable. Or questions like, "Do I even like this job?", or "Am I happy in this relationship?" can feel scary to ask. But self-questioning can save you from going along on autopilot, and can lead to some positive changes.

As a Certified Life Coach, I’m here to help you get comfortable with your curiosity and turn what can be scary questions into real life changes!