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Please talk a bit less (about yourself)!
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Winter is coming! Depending on where you live, you either had your time change last weekend, or you'll have it soon. Am I the only one who wants to go to bed at 6pm this time of year? Last week I spent some time around someone who talked a lot. I love conversation, and my husband and I both talk a LOT. This person, though, stood out because they only talked about themselves. I'm a curious person and love to know people's backgrounds and stories, but I found myself honestly not even caring, which didn't feel good. Have you ever had a chat with someone who didn't ask you anything at all? Within minutes you can get the impression that they don't care. I felt like I could have walked away and they wouldn't even notice I'd left. Why ask questions of others?Asking questions builds connections with others. When you ask someone else a question, you show that you care enough to stop talking and actually listen to what they have to say. People love being asked about themselves! And it can be fascinating to learn about what makes other people tick, and why they feel the way they do. What about asking ourselves questions?It's not one-sided. We can and should ask ourselves questions as well. Asking things like, “Am I doing this because I want to, or because I think I have to?” can be as enlightening as it is uncomfortable. Or questions like, "Do I even like this job?", or "Am I happy in this relationship?" can feel scary to ask. But self-questioning can save you from going along on autopilot, and can lead to some positive changes. As a Certified Life Coach, I’m here to help you get comfortable with your curiosity and turn what can be scary questions into real life changes! |
Bethany Ward Life Coaching
I'm a Certified Life Coach and athlete, who loves to talk about personal development and work/life relationships. I help my clients embrace change with courage and determination. Subscribe to my newsletter to get helpful ways to improve mindset, and turn challenges into successes.
I came across a great little test by Ross McCammon called The Two Beers and a Puppy Test. The idea is when you’re thinking about someone in your life, ask yourself two questions: Would I want to have two beers with this person? Would I trust them to look after my puppy? If the answer to both is yes, you’ve got yourself someone to keep in your world. If it’s no to both, maybe that relationship belongs in a different category. This week I’m in New York with my best friend, someone who passes...
On Sunday, I did something I never thought I’d do . . a Spartan Deka event. It’s a strength event with 10 stations like rowing, sled pushes, burpees, farmer’s carries, box step-overs, and similar and the goal is to complete them as fast as you can. I never would have done it if not for my friend Karen. She asked me, encouraged me, asked me again, and challenged me into signing up with her as a team. Left to my own, I’d probably never have done it. But thanks to her encouragement and her not...
Hey Reader, A few weeks ago, I found out my position as an Executive Assistant with an International company was being made redundant. I definitely didn’t see it coming. But after the dust settled, I reminded myself of something I often say to my clients: focus on what you can control, not what you can’t. I couldn’t control the redundancy. But I could control my response. I could choose to panic and fall into a negative mental loop, or I could take the energy and move it into something...